My dear friend,
Yes, your sexual capacity did not result from an accident. God put it within you and saw you (including your sex organs and sexual capacities) as very good. There is nothing wrong in sex. It is one of God's good gifts to the people He created.
Because God is the Creator of our sexual capacities, He knows best the conditions under which those capacities should be used so that they bring lasting satisfaction to all involved. These conditions have been clearly stated in His Instructions Book on Sexual Matters. That "Instructions Book on Sexual Matters" is called the Bible. In it God, the Creator of sex, has said everything that man needs to know on how to use his sexual capacities. He has neither complicated things nor put conditions that are impossible for man to fulfil. In fact, all His instructions are for the benefit of man. They are given to man as a token of love and not to curtail his enjoyment.
I know you are beginning to ask what these God-given instructions are on how to have a fulfilled sexual life that is pleasing to God, to yourself, to your partner, and to the whole world. Read on, friend.
God says in the Bible that a man should leave his father and mother, cleave to his wife, and then the two will become one flesh. That is, a man has to set himself apart from his family and all others, publicly take one woman as his wife, and the two of them can then enter into the sexual relationship with the full approval and blessings of God. In saying this, God as the Creator, is also saying that all other sexual relationships are not permitted by Him because they will ultimately cause harm to man. There is no sexual relationship which God has not permitted which can bring lasting happiness to man.
This means that before any two people enter into any sexual relationship, they must ask themselves the following questions:
Is this relationship permitted by God? Does He approve of it?
Will this relationship bring happiness to us who are involved in it now and in all the future on earth and in all the future after death?
Will this relationship bring happiness for all time and for all eternity, to any children who may result from it?
Will this relationship bring happiness to all our parents and relatives? Will it help to build our nation? Will it make the world a happier place for all?
The sexual relationships that are entered into according to the instructions of God in the Bible will answer all the above questions with a "YES". Those relationships that He does not approve of will have a "NO" as an answer to the questions. Although people ought not to enter into any relationship which has "NO" as an answer, people have gone ahead and carried out such relationships. These relationships include:
Fornication: This is a sexual relationship between any two unmarried people. Such people may be pupils, students or just anyone.
Adultery: This is a sexual relationship between two people, one or both of whom are married, but not to each other.
Homosexuality: This is a sexual relationship between two people of the same sex. If, for example, a man goes to bed with another man, this is homosexuality. When a woman has a sexual relationship with another woman, it is a form of homosexuality called lesbianism.
Masturbation: This is the act of stimulating oneself into a sexual experience alone.
These sexual relationships which God forbids can also be carried out only in thoughts. It does not ultimately matter whether the relationship is carried out in thoughts or whether the thoughts are allowed to become action. God looks at the heart and He sees the violation of His law right at the root of things. The Bible says: "Everyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28). There are those who read immoral books and magazines, watch immoral films, attend dances and night clubs. There are those who caress, kiss, pet and touch parts of the bodies of others that they should not touch. Through all these things, they fill their thoughts with immorality, and even when these thoughts are not transformed into action, the people are nevertheless impure before God who sees all. In addition, when opportunities do arise, those with impure thoughts carry out in practice that which has filled their hearts.
There is a salary for all who break God's instructions on the sexual life. This salary is two-fold. There is the first part (salary advance) and there is the second part (full pay). You surely want to know in detail something about the salary I am talking about. The salary advance includes girls who go to school and become pregnant. This results in the birth of babies who are neither desired by the mother nor by the father, and who may not have a home filled with love and care. Such children suffer a lot psychologically, and later on grow up to produce similar children, for "like begets like"; or the girl may carry out an abortion. A child is murdered! The mother carries the guilt all her life for killing. She may become barren because of the abortion and never have children again. This may lead to an unhappy marriage or to divorce. Her career may be ruined, because she had to drop out of school because of pregnancy. She may never get married since many people do not want to marry girls who already have children with other people. The hopes of the parents may be crushed, and so on. Would you want that to happen to your daughter? Would you want to be that bastard child?
The boy may contact a venereal disease that will destroy his health, deplete his finances and cause him to be sterile or impotent. He may spread the disease to others. He may pass it to his wife and children and cause many to suffer. Would you like to be one such man? The woman may only see her husband at 2 a.m. each day. Money may be spent on the woman outside whereas there is nothing for the wife and children at home. Would you like to be that woman? The man may be killed and thrown into the Sanaga river so that another man should take over. These are just a few examples of the salary advance that those who practise sex outside God's instructions have in this world.
The full pay will also come. Salary advance is an assurance that the full pay will surely come. On judgment day, God will punish all who have broken His law by throwing them into the lake of fire. The Bible says, "But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the polluted, as for murderers, fornicators, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their lot shall be in the lake that burns with fire and sulphur, which is the second death" (Revelation 21:8). The Bible further says, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither the immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor sexual perverts, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor robbers, will inherit the kingdom of God" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). This means that if you have committed any sexual sin, be it in thought or action, or if you have committed any other sin, you will go to the lake of fire. It does not matter whether you have sinned once or many times. You are lost. You cannot hide from God. He knows you and all your life is on His record. He must pay you for your sinful actions, words and thoughts.
Although all people have sinned in one way or the other, especially in the area of sex, God loves the sinner. You fornicator, adulterer, adulteress, you who have committed an abortion or abortions, passed venereal diseases to people, God loves you very much. He has manifested His love for you, not by a philosophy or by a religion, but by a person. That person is Jesus Christ. The Bible says, "For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16). God sent Jesus Christ into the world to save sinners. Jesus Christ went to the cross to die where you ought to have died because of your sin and sins. All the immorality that you have ever committed was put on Him and He bore it for you and died in your place. He was punished for you so that God should not punish you on Judgment Day because of your sins. He did not only die for you. He rose again from the dead and He lives forever. He is prepared to come into your life by His Holy Spirit and repair all that is broken and scattered in your life because of your past sins. He is prepared to restore your virginity to you, heal you of your venereal diseases and take away your impotence and sterility. He is prepared to heal your psychological and emotional problems, heal your broken marriage and restore a proper relationship between you and your parents or children. He is prepared to change you radically so that you can become the wonderful person He meant you to be. Yes, He wants to do all these and at the end give you eternal life. The Bible says, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, behold the new has come" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
I believe you surely want to be forgiven by God, united with Jesus and set free from the salary of sin. I believe you want to do it now. You can! Jesus is anxious to receive you now. You can pray in the following way and mean it with all your heart. God will answer your prayer at once. So pray, "Lord God, I have sinned in my thoughts, words and actions. I believe that Jesus died on the cross in my place. I believe in Him now as my Saviour and Lord. Forgive me all the sins I have committed and heal me of all the diseases I have. Make me Your child. Send Your Holy Spirit to live within me now and give me the power to follow You to the end. Thank you for hearing my prayer and for answering it now. Amen."
If you have prayed the above prayer sincerely, then God has forgiven you and you are now His child. As God's child, you must stop all your past sinful practices at once. Therefore no more fornication, no more adultery, no more masturbation, no more reading of immoral books, no more going to places that will excite immoral thoughts. Break up your relationship with your former sex partners at once and follow the Lord with your whole heart.
Write to me at once and I will pray for you and answer any question that you may have.
I love you. God bless you.